My Aunt (mother’s younger sister) recently called me to say she was not going to have any dealings with my mom anymore. She had to call the police on my drunken and distraught mom, who just recently lost her lifelong best friend to cancer. She was screaming and causing a bad enough scene to disturb the entire apartment building. My mom is a recovering addict and alcoholic who has recently fallen off the wagon, and stopped taking her antidepressants. She lives in New Jersey (same building as her sister) and my brother and I are in Florida. We will both be going up to Jersey in the next couple days, it would be immediate but we both have work commitments we can’t just abandon because our mom is acting out. We both love her very much, but her increasingly erratic and dangerous outbursts are making any kind of long term/distance solution near impossible. I would be very appreciative of any empathetic advice from others in the profession or similar situations. I’m at a loss with how to proceed once I get up north in the next couple days. Thank you so very much.
Would your Mother be open to talking to her Doctor with you? For referrals for grief counseling, possible meds/treatment for anxiety for starters.
I can't blame your aunt for washing her hands of it (I'm pleased to infer that you don't, either).
Have you spoken to your mother since this all blew up? What does she say?