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Sounds like your sister has some form of dementia as not wanting to shower is very common with folks who suffer from it. So make sure she has a shower bench to sit on, grab bars, a slip proof mat, and a hand held showerhead, so she feels safe and comfortable while taking a shower. And you or someone else may have to just take her by the hand and put her in the shower and help her wash up real good. You can do this about twice a week and then use the extra large body wipes on her for the other days. It may also be time for your sister to move into an assisted living facility as they will have their folks shower her as needed.
It's common for the elderly not to want to bathe. Most likely, she has dementia. Along with this condition goes anger and combativeness. So you may follow the excellent advice here, hire an aide who is experienced in making sure that the patient showers - and then sister becomes angry, starts hitting, kicking, scratching, etc. when they try to shower her. Then you have another problem. What to do?
At that point, many people decide that the only way to deal with this two-problems-in-one situation is to place the loved one in a facility. They must be kept clean or all sorts of health issues can develop, such as skin infections, scabies, or whatnot. At a facility they have many people to assist with showering them. My husband, for instance, is a three-person assist. There is no way I could keep him clean at home, so that's a main reason that he doesn't live here anymore.
Keep in mind that at some point you may have to give up the idea of helping sister at home. You're facing a problem that is more serious than you may have thought at first! Good luck in finding the best solution for sister and for you.
How do you approach her? I found that asking "do you want to get a shower" you get the answer No. F she has a Dementia, they become like toddlers. With my Mom I just pointed her into the direction of her bathroom and said "its time for a shower". Make sure the room is warm. Have a shower chair and a hand held shower head. Do not put her under the shower spray. Rinse her off and suds her up. Those puffs and shower gel is great for this.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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So make sure she has a shower bench to sit on, grab bars, a slip proof mat, and a hand held showerhead, so she feels safe and comfortable while taking a shower.
And you or someone else may have to just take her by the hand and put her in the shower and help her wash up real good. You can do this about twice a week and then use the extra large body wipes on her for the other days.
It may also be time for your sister to move into an assisted living facility as they will have their folks shower her as needed.
At that point, many people decide that the only way to deal with this two-problems-in-one situation is to place the loved one in a facility. They must be kept clean or all sorts of health issues can develop, such as skin infections, scabies, or whatnot. At a facility they have many people to assist with showering them. My husband, for instance, is a three-person assist. There is no way I could keep him clean at home, so that's a main reason that he doesn't live here anymore.
Keep in mind that at some point you may have to give up the idea of helping sister at home. You're facing a problem that is more serious than you may have thought at first! Good luck in finding the best solution for sister and for you.