When we got married, 7 1/2 years ago, we knew that the time would come that I would have to deal with his aging body and brain. We agreed that we would hire whatever help necessary to care for him rather than send him to a home. I was a trained in-home caregiver before we married so I am able to do many things that other wives might not be able to do. He is physically healthy, but now he’s going in and out of being delusional. Memory mostly, can’t remember how do simple tasks, needs help with hygiene, etc. He’s begun to go in and out of delusional phases ~ waking up in the middle of the night to ask me to fix his hearing aids, asking why everybody went home when no one has been here, asking me why I’m not wearing my hearing aids, when I’ve never worn them. I ‘m not scared. I know this is normal progression, but I’d really like to have someone besides just me keeping an eye on him. Our family practice doctor monitors his vitals and takes blood tests and says he’s healthy. I agree, but who is there to help me with this other stuff that comes with age. He’s 94 and I’m 75. Again, I just want to know who I can hire that will help me deal with the protests of having some help me and observe the progession of his aging.
Do not ever promise to never put someone in a facility. You cannot imagine how intense the care can get. Also never hesitate to ask for meds for his depression, anxiety, aggression, agitation. There's often no other real way to deal with an unreasonable person.
I wish you wisdom and peace in your heart as you make decisions for yourself and for him.