
I guess I'll go first with this one.
The thing that stands out the most for me about MIL with alzheimers.......
Everything is ALL ABOUT HER. I could cut my arm off and be bleeding on the floor right beside her and she would worry about who was going to bring her a cookie.
I am treated as" a nothing" in her world.
Then I feel guilty for thinking she's an old battleaxe.
Well that's my confession.
How about yours?
I try to encourage gma to move and help, and she loves folding laundry and making her own snacks and food. The issues arise when she has an accident (either bathroom or dropping food) and tries to clean up messes off the ground. Usually it becomes a smearing mess by the time she gives up. I think it helps her "give in" a little faster with me because she knows I work in a hospital where I clean up "bathroom" messes all the time. "I guess you just have the constitution for this sort of thing." Lol, yep. That works for me.
Finally gave up on thinking they should get up outta that chair...what makes them happy is eating, sleeping, complaining, and TV...moms joy is updating me on the political scene EVERYDAY and how we are nearing the end when Jesus is coming...been hearing that from grandmas before I was born! Yes, he's coming someday...I wanna have some good clean fun in the meantime
I do believe they need activity/social stuff...I'm just too wiped out to try to make it happen anymore
Used to love this "role" I've been playing in for 30 yrs...today, NOT SO MUCH
Yes I'm sooo happy I don't have a "job" and I'm thrilled my divorced parents need or want a piece of me everyday
Skip skip skip to my loo, got laundry to doo and so excited I got scoopin catpoo to do!
3 kids and only one even makes the effort to call every week. I have no children and DH has already outlived more than half his siblings and is in better health than 2 that are younger than him. His kids all live states away so I am pretty much a lone caregiver. But that doesn't really bother me as I am in no hurry to be widowed myself.
What truly upsets me is that I can't understand why they don't seem to realize that 95 is old and Dad won't be here forever. Maybe this is normal, but I still can't understand.
Oh! and DH is Dear or Darling Hubby/Husband and DW would be the same for Wife.
I had to learn too, lol. corinna - it ain't just you, lol.
Huggers,
lidna
Venting like that does not mean she doesn't love him, or does not value him-or her marriage. imo.
While men-bashing is to be avoided, a little venting is healthy. imo.
What man has not joined in joking about his wife: The wife, the little lady, etc
Fil can also mean family in law.
Joke...
A woman goes to the doctor. Comes home and is telling Hubs how it went. She says "the doctor says my blood pressure is fine, my heart is fine, my cholesterol is good" Hubs says "What did he say about your big fat a**?" Wife responds "Oh, we didn't talk about you at all dear"