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Over 2 yrs ago I moved in with my 80 yr old sister to take care of her. Cleaned up her finances by giving her mine . Now when I say she needs assisted living I’m told by other sister and nephew that I’m exaggerating her symptoms so I can do that. I’m 75 and am am down on hands & knees cleaning her up and dressing her. I’m so angry and hurt. Also exhausted.
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LovingHeart26 Apr 13, 2026
Dear Joyce, you are a true angel and I wish I could wave a wand and bring in support for YOU that you so dearly need. God bless you and sending you a big hug. 🌸
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For me, is the burnout of day in day out care for 6 years which has consumed my life. Although I have help with caregivers, I am managing them as well and it is a lot when dealing with my own health issues.

And trying to be really in the zone of being present, calm, loving and patient with my mom who has Lewy Body Dementia when I am with her.
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I am a caregiver for my 68 yr old husband with vascular dementia. I am bored and stressed from the constant watching for his well being and having not much stimulating to do. I have been posting on social media some good encouraging Bible texts, and sayings of encouragement which helps me up to a point.
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Truth.. my biggest boogaboo that I experience while caring for my vascular dementia diagnosed spouse is, I miss sharing our formerly prearranged travel experiences, our former ability to work for pay for beer money so to speak, our former Intimate moments, etc ... We have both had to find ways to grieve our former lifestyle and come to accept that our life together today is different and I have had to focus on new found ways to find our joy, usually one sided, wherever and however we can. For instance, on this beautiful Sunday morning, I'd much rather be taking a ride down to the ocean. However, seeking to limit activity for my spouse, which keeps him calm and content, we are sitting on our porch. As we sit here I meditate and dream of the ocean smell the water feel the wind in my hair, and the sun on my face, the sand on my feet, seagulls in the sky, and there we are sitting in the sand watching the ocean in and out and feeling calm thanking God for the blessing it was beautiful Sunday morning. So what I'm trying to say is.. make the most with your loved one when you can. Laugh about the confusions they have. Make jokes. Be tender. And most importantly reach out for the joy when your loved one speaks or doesn't, look into their eyes deep into their souls and see the higher power that's inside of all of us it is reaching for joy as best as possible each day, no they are safe, in your love, and caring, what life is left and do with it the day brings. It's the best advice I can give us a call for maintaining our mental health through the most trying times of our lives watching our loved ones go through these hard times.
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The lack of give a shi! By everyone else involved. They don't care if I'm never able to go to school functions with my grandchildren, if my back is broke or my head is pounding or if I have money to buy my loved ones present since I'm without income taking care of Mom. They don't care that every morning I wake crying due to the impossible amount of chores I have to do before the end of the day. They pile in once a month to make themselves look and feel better. I've grown to detest them
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