It has been almost one year since I moved my mom to memory care and I am so blessed to be able to say my mom is doing really well there! I cannot explain how different this Christmas was compared with the previous 3. I am so grateful that nightmare is over. (Her living with her husband who was not much better off than her and then living alone for the last year). My sister and I work together to make sure one of us visits her every day. I just wanted to let people know there is hope your loved one can be "happy" in memory care. I try not to think about what happens when she runs out of money in 3 years. At least not yet. I am just savoring the moment. It is as good as I could have hoped it would be.
(of course reasonably plan for the future, but not worry about it too much, who knows what will or will not happen....)
This forum opened my eyes to the possibility of Memory Care for my mother. It saved my sanity. ◡̈