So DHR had to get involved because parents could not care for themselves. I was given temp guardianship. I am having to place them in homes. I was informed that one of the family complained that had not been informed of their condition. They have not seen my parents for years and they would take them in their house and care for them. I am right to be upset since they never worried or reached out about them before?
You know how imperfect people can be, how judgmental and how troublesome. Simply tell them you have been very busy. There's nothing to say to or about people who want to give trouble to someone already in hot enough water. Simply smile and move on. You won't win a fight with someone that clueless. I want to say brainless, but am trying to be nice here.
You have a potload of stuff on your plate now. You could ALWAYS TRY FOR HUMOR and say "You know, it's a shame. But no one thought you would be interested. I am so glad that YOU ARE because wow, I am going to need a whole lot of help here". Scare them away!