Whatever information I can learn to help my 86 yo FIL, mild dementia, for his uncontrollable urinating, leaking through his disposable undergarments, I greatly appreciate it. The size fits good. Should he/we be checking his undergarment more often, like every hour? Thinking he could be urinating when he doesn’t know it, & by the time of the leak, he is surprised by the leak.
Dad is able to use the toilet on his own (just not in time). He is frustrated, embarrassed & upset. He’s had a UTI two times. He needs to take the water pill, increased dosage. He wears a pull-up style undergarment. What is the best quality undergarment, & is the velcro style any easier/better? Also what is a comfortable clothing brand for dress pants (not jeans)?
Thank you!
The tab style briefs (adult diapers) are more absorbent than the pull-up style.
He may need help with putting on and taking off. Also, make sure you have adult size pre-moistened wipes for thorough cleaning of the skin in between changes.
In a care home, the rule-of-thumb is to check and/or change the diaper every two hours. If your Dad is using the toilet and urinating successfully in the toilet, he may be able to go longer than the two hours.
I like the Tena brand with stretch side tabs, which allow a more customized fit, however the absorbent material in between the legs is heavy-duty, which can be bulky in between the legs, and may be uncomfortable for him.
Walmart's Certainty brand is readily available and affordable at any Walmart store, or online. They are thinner, less bulky, which could feel better between the legs, but need to be changed more frequently, as it doesn't hold as much fluid.
I don't know about dress pants, but for my husband, I only use elastic waistband pants! Such as sweatpants or Lounge pants. I have seen dress style pants available for men with an elastic waist.
If he is going out on public and wants to hide the bulky diaper, he could try wearing boxer briefs Over the diaper. That might compress and hold the diaper in place. But, there really should be no need for embarrassment, as many people wear adult diapers. It is commonplace and perfectly acceptable.
Here's another idea: If he is able to use the toilet, perhaps getting him into a routine of going to the toilet every hour or every two hours will help. If he is leaking before he can make it to the toilet, and unaware that he has urinated, it sounds like he does not have any control. He might like to think that he does, as it is hard to accept losing control of something you've done all your life.
I find "relax" fit dockers or similar brands fit him and looks dressy enough.
JRJ
Hope this helps StarJoan.
But since he himself is noticing a problem it may be simplest to encourage him to use the toilet at regular intervals, every two hours or so.