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My Darling Husband is 76 and knows about his recent diagnosis of mild to moderate late onset AD. He knows he’s a little “fuzzy” but doesn’t agree with the diagnosis and has not told anyone. He has lifelong friends (yes - 75 years!) that he speaks with weekly. They are surely noticing his periodic confusion, repetitive questions and other changes. DH loves his friends and finds joy in their shared memories of ‘back in the day’ growing up in Manhattan. Detailed memories in sharp focus! On one hand I am thinking they have concerns but don't want to “question/embarrass” their friend. On the other hand they might be concerned, or choose not to call because they don’t understand his situation and are uncomfortable.
I am leaning towards telling them something, although I fear notice to his friends would be a betrayal in his eyes. However I also want them to understand and keep in touch.
Have you faced this question? What worked for you with your loved one?

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Putting a name to his periodic confusion isn't likely to make his friends less uncomfortable, in fact in my experience labelling someone with Alzheimer's is more apt to give some of them the excuse to exclude him.
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I would let friends know and ask they not reveal that you told them. As many have experienced don’t be surprised if friends fade away as your husband’s progression continues. It’s common, though unfortunate, many people don’t know how to handle it so they just choose to avoid. I’m sorry you’re in this place with your hubby
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