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I’m her son and I don’t want to embarrass her. She does have a seat in her bathtub to sit in. She is also 77 years old. Also can I get someone to bathe her other than myself? I just can’t afford an expensive nurse.
You can hire a bath aide to bathe your mom a couple times a week, I think that would make life easier for both of you. Look on Care.com and find someone in your area to do what you need, but have mom pay for this service with her funds.
Look for bath aides employed already in hospice or at a facility. Two reasons. They are already doing it, and if a back tweak happens, it’s pretty easy for them to file their workers comp with said facility vs you,
Yes! Hire someone! There are CNA's (certified nursing assistants) who provide bathing assistance. YOU don't pay for it, you use mom's money to pay for the help she needs. If her income is limited, help her apply for Medicaid for in-home cares. Whatever the cost, it is worth every penny to have someone assist her safely.
You say she has a seat in her bathtub. Is she able to comfortably step in to the tub? This can be hazardous, especially if she weighs a lot, for someone to help her in and out of the tub, while she is wet. She could go down, hard, and break something! The person assisting could also get hurt! You may be able to get her doctor to refer an occupational therapist to come to the home and do an assessment of how to make the bathroom and the home, in general, safer. This should be paid by her insurance, or Medicaid.
You can call around to Adult Day Care centers. Many offer bathing assistance while the person is in their care.
If financial limitations prevent you from remodeling the bathroom to make it more accessible, you can try and find an inexpensive motel with a ROLL-IN shower in a handicap accessible room. You can buy a shower chair on wheels, which she can sit on, or if she is walking ok, just a plastic shower chair, and pull the curtain and let her shower herself. Get a bath towel poncho, with a hood, to cover her as she exits the shower. Is she able to dry, lotion, and dress herself? Or is it difficult for her to reach? If you or she is embarrassed, you will need to hire someone to help.
I'm guessing this is a new situation for you both. What are your long term plans? Do you have a handicapped accessible bathroom? It might be time to file for Medicaid and start looking at care homes. I refused to do any bathroom tasks for my dad. We had him placed in a care home and they were able to bathe him and care for his needs.
She can have wipe downs so get a couple cheap bowls- the plastic ones that you’d use in a kitchen sink to wash dishes-those sort
one for face and body one fir private area Three flannels colour coded would help two white one dark white for face and body - dark for private area a little disinfectant in the water and a squirt of shower or bath gel Set it in a little table near her and you can pass her the flannel for her face squeezing out the water ( I don’t put the face one in disinfectant incase it irritates the eyes just wet it) for your mums privacy you could either hold up a towel while she takes top off or if she’s mobile leave the room or turn yr back and say call me when you’ve washed your front and I’ll help wipe down your back n maybe out a little body moisturiser on it have clothes out ready if you could pick up a cheap hospital gown that opens at the back that would be better Your mother can have a wipe down if she’s able or you in the room back turned to her or outside the room editing her to call u all done. You don’t must have baths- when a routines established maybe she wouldn't mind — if your mother suffers from any type of incontinence it would be advisable if funds allow to pick up disposable panties. We put an incontinence pad into a pair of incontinence pants- that way any leaks etc you get away with a wipe down and just replacing the pull out pad? another way us cleaning while your mother is laying in bed turned to her side ? If she’s overweight she’d prob not be cleaning herself too well after toileting we use large sized body wet wipes dipped into warm water to wipe privates - pat dry and some anti chaff cream - doctor shd provide to save getting any rashes it sounds like a lot but once u get a routine it’s not too bad we also use incontinence sheets to lay ontop of- any accidents it saves a lot of washing it’s hard to bend lift your joints when she creeps in then you have added responsibility of weight - it’s hard in her world. in all fairness it sounds like you could do with sone help maybe google local charities fur the elderly who may be able to help along with advice - maybe get mum assessed and they’ll tell you what they think she needs.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Best of luck to you.
You say she has a seat in her bathtub. Is she able to comfortably step in to the tub? This can be hazardous, especially if she weighs a lot, for someone to help her in and out of the tub, while she is wet. She could go down, hard, and break something! The person assisting could also get hurt!
You may be able to get her doctor to refer an occupational therapist to come to the home and do an assessment of how to make the bathroom and the home, in general, safer. This should be paid by her insurance, or Medicaid.
You can call around to Adult Day Care centers. Many offer bathing assistance while the person is in their care.
If financial limitations prevent you from remodeling the bathroom to make it more accessible, you can try and find an inexpensive motel with a ROLL-IN shower in a handicap accessible room. You can buy a shower chair on wheels, which she can sit on, or if she is walking ok, just a plastic shower chair, and pull the curtain and let her shower herself. Get a bath towel poncho, with a hood, to cover her as she exits the shower.
Is she able to dry, lotion, and dress herself? Or is it difficult for her to reach?
If you or she is embarrassed, you will need to hire someone to help.
so get a couple cheap bowls- the plastic ones that you’d use in a kitchen sink to wash dishes-those sort
one for face and body
one fir private area
Three flannels colour coded would help two white one dark
white for face and body - dark for private area
a little disinfectant in the water and a squirt of shower or bath gel
Set it in a little table near her and
you can pass her the flannel for her face squeezing out the water ( I don’t put the face one in disinfectant incase it irritates the eyes just wet it)
for your mums privacy you could either hold up a towel while she takes top off or if she’s mobile leave the room or turn yr back and say call me when you’ve washed your front and I’ll help wipe down your back n maybe out a little body moisturiser on it
have clothes out ready
if you could pick up a cheap hospital gown that opens at the back that would be better
Your mother can have a wipe down if she’s able or you in the room back turned to her or outside the room editing her to call u all done. You don’t must have baths- when a routines established maybe she wouldn't mind
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if your mother suffers from any type of incontinence it would be advisable if funds allow to pick up disposable panties. We put an incontinence pad into a pair of incontinence pants- that way any leaks etc you get away with a wipe down and just replacing the pull out pad?
another way us cleaning while your mother is laying in bed turned to her side ? If she’s overweight she’d prob not be cleaning herself too well after toileting
we use large sized body wet wipes dipped into warm water to wipe privates - pat dry and some anti chaff cream - doctor shd provide to save getting any rashes
it sounds like a lot but once u get a routine it’s not too bad
we also use incontinence sheets to lay ontop of- any accidents it saves a lot of washing
it’s hard to bend
lift your joints when she creeps in then you have added responsibility of weight - it’s hard in her world.
in all fairness it sounds like you could do with sone help
maybe google local charities fur the elderly who may be able to help along with advice - maybe get mum assessed and they’ll tell you what they think she needs.