I already know that my moms main caretaker is the one who made the report because the conversation was accidently caught on the Ring doorbell.
I am very nervous about all of this. I'm ADHD and deal with severe anxiety and rejection sensitivity, tourettes, and I have a hard time with verbal communication at times. At the end of May I having a hard time emotionally, and ended up needing to go to be hospitalized for a few days. This has never happened to me before, and the first thing I made sure of was that my best friend and siblings knew. I gave made sure my friend had my siblings numbers and vice versa so the could coordinate my moms care for the first few days.
I'm not my moms legal guardian, but I do live with her, help with house repairs and I did get paid to care for her part time. I help her on and off the clock. I make sure she's changed when if she urinates. If she feels like she has a BM I put her on the toilet asap, and clean her up when she's finished. I even spend long periods of time on the weekends in the kitchen preparing, dividing, and freezing meals that are cirrhosis friendly and still taste good. Even when I was struggling my moms needs were still met. Because I'm family, I do a lot more than someone who is not related.
My mom is fully aware cognitively and they never even asked about my side or her side of the story. She's infuriated with the whole situation.
This whole situation is messing with me and how I perceive myself as well. I have a hard time holding down a full time job and managing house hold expectations on top. Working part time outside the house, and part time in the house were a perfect balance for me and my mom.
Because of the states decision, and ONE and only one visit from a social worker, I worry about managing life in general if I have to work more hours outside the house. I feel like a large portion of my income was taken away but responsibilities just doubled. I was not neglecting my mom before, but now I worry I won't be able to balance everything. I was also self teaching myself new career skills, because I don't want to do my outside the house job for life, and now I worry I won't be able to make the time.
Is your mom cognizant?
You say she is fully aware but does she have an "official" diagnosis of dementia?
Does she have a "Legal Guardian"? If so who is it?
How or for what reason does she need caregivers?
Have you been told that you should have no contact with your mother?
Have you been given a date for a hearing or a Court date? (If you have I would not attend either without an Attorney that is well versed in Elder Care.)
She does not have a legal guardian.
Fortunately no. They didn't tell me I shouldn't have contact with her.
I've yet to receive my letter about how to go about a hearing, but that it great to know! I do however have two direct witnesses' and three indirect and counting including two coworkers who see me work daily in another health setting and the 23 year old of a family I nannied for. The middle children were 16 1/2 my final summer. I have no clue what people they'll want if any.
I’m glad you have witnesses who can vouch for you and your care of your mom. Sorry you’re going through this.