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Patient wants 1 on 1 attention all the time unless it is PT.. says the facility is abusive or neglectfull..wants to go home only. Always on call light insisting on immediate care...was in 3 different acute care facilities2 facilities refuse to have her back..Family is desperate because they cannot provide care to her 24/7Very frustrated

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Have her neurologist prescribe medication(s) to calm her down.
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I agree, they should consider medication. If she doesn't progress in her PT the orders will be cancelled and she'll need to leave.
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Talk to her doctor about meds. She sounds agitated.
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She's headed to a long term care facility permanently where her needs will be ignored for hours on end, in general. It behooves her to play the game properly and regain her facilities or the future prognosis is grim. If she cannot be handled in acute rehab, she certainly cannot be handled at home. Hopefully she will improve with calming medication.
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Beethoven13 11 hours ago
And calming medication usually means antipsychotic medication like risperdone and Olanzepine. Perhaps Light doses of lorazepam. Most doctors are very hesitant with Xanax. It might be helpful for you to google these medications so you know what to expect. The geriatric psychiatrist who treated my 93 year old father with agitation and combative behavior post stroke said “it will dim his light.” I agreed to proceed so we could keep the caregivers. The doses were increased as needed. Dad was subdued, sometimes sedated but still not really calm a lot of the time. It was really hard for me to watch him struggle. When I agreed to hospice we added liberal doses of lorazepam. I was resistant at first, wanting to see the light in dad’s eyes again. It became less and less. The whole ordeal as the adult child taking over my elderly parents life was overwhelming. My health suffered, emotionally and physically. My elderly mother stood by and watched me take it all on and never helped. I’m sharing to give you some perspective, medication is helpful. IMO, what you need is reliable and genuine support, from family or paid experienced private caregivers.
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More details – eg age and physical state – would help. Strokes happen at all ages, and 55 is very different from 85. Dementia at 90 is different from a 55 year old business manager.

It might be a good idea for both sides to work out what ‘going home’ would mean. What care would you be willing and able to do? Or what care would be needed, would COST, and who would pay? Is the patient willing and able to co-operate (including pay for it)? Talking about the reality of 'going home' might help a lot.
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This level of agitation is hard on her too. She needs to be calmed by medication to help her feel settled and able to cooperate with staff. It’s a kindness to all
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I think that is typical behavior. Sounds like she may have some cognitive impairment. Discuss with senior staff, like the nurse in charge, ways to remediate her behavior, so they don't kick her out. Could they disconnect the call button and just check on her more frequently? Can they schedule More time with PT?
I think it's great that she is cooperative with PT and wants to do it! Often that is the challenge!
Do they have an in-house or visiting doctor who can prescribe medication to calm her? Can you ask her regular doctor to prescribe a medication?
Is there an activities director who can be asked to give her a little extra attention and get her involved in activities she would enjoy?
Could you hire your own care attendant, like an in-home care provider, to go and give her extra attention and care at the rehab facility?

Most importantly, when she complains to you and wants to go home - DO NOT let her think for a minute that you would contemplate doing any such thing. Be strong, no hint of feeling sorry for her and agreeing to give in to her demands.
No sad face, "I'm sorry mom, I wish you could come home too".
Just be matter of fact; "You have to stay here until you have completed rehab." "If you are unable to live independently, the family is not able to (not going to) take care of you." It is probably time to look for a long term care facility. Many people at this point do not make significant progress with PT to be able to return home and live independently.
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