He was covered head to toe with feces and didn't realize it when he went to a dr appt
they called an ambulance
I asked my aunt to call my sister about it (we dont talk) and yes got emotional on the phone with her, the hosp said he shouldn't drive anymore and should go into AL
my father has refused help since my mother passed away and thinks he is OK and I knew this would happen sooner of later I suppose it happens a lot
I think a few of you may remember it
I have tried and begged and screamed for him to get help and he didn't so here he is
he was even unpleasant when he called me from the ambulance he is fine anyway
I am giving the hospital my sister's number and that's it
why should I deal with these awful people, I will post my sisters email below-this is why I have to drop these horrible people I reached the end of my rope I appreciate this forum and the people here
"I’ve called the PD so don’t even think about going near that house tonight unless you want to get arrested!
He doesn’t want you in there when he is not home because you are a THIEF!!!
I will send him clothes overnight from Amazon!
U r still delusional if you think I will ever have a civil conversation with you after you ransacked the house when Mom died and took everything of value.
Walt knows what he has and he’s made a list so stay tf out!
You are a disgusting excuse for a human being, yelling at Mom the last day she was even alive. U r sick! It’s no one’s fault but ur own that you didn’t finish school, or even stay with a job if it got hard bc u r a lazy pos and want to freeload off of everyone else’s hard work and I will not stand for it!
Karma will get you sooner than later bc u r so ignorant and think ur always right. Everyone has your number now so u can lay off the poor me act u miserable, evil pathetic loser!
DO NOT CONTACT ME or I’ll send your pathetic message to the police and slap a restraining order on you!!"
Your dad is safe now!! Yes these stories like yours happen often here, unfortunately.
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it's just idiotic
so I will post an update if this poster stays away from my posts
she seems to skulk here watching everything and posting on every thread
I hope she/he helps some of you
If you are worried about his health and safety call APS, if you have not done already.
At some point, given human rights to live their own lives as they choose, and after you have done what you can, there's just not a thing you can do.
If this is indeed the email your own sister sent you, I'm going to say there's a lot of hurt and hard feelings there and that doesn't come from nowhere. You should read this email over and be honest with yourself about how much of it is true. Take some accountability for that. I've had hard feelings and fights with my sibs too, but never anything like this. It takes two to create this level of hate between siblings. The fact that you will post a PRIVATE email your sister sent you on the internet for strangers proves some of what your sister is saying about the 'poor me' act here.
At least your father is in the hospital and will get the help he needs. Get the help you need. Call APS anyway and let them know what happened. The hospital and APS will get your father into care.
This is when the Hospital SW needs to do something. If your called, tell them you have been asked to stay way, Dad and family do not want your help. APS should be called in by the hospital. This man can no longer take care of himself so the State needs to take over his care. You have tried to help, no one wants it. So you are going no contact for your mental health.
Its now time for youvto take care of yourself. Find out why you were so adamant about caring for a man that did not want your help.
I would post an update but I don't want to be ridiculed or judged
it sounds like you’ve had a terrible time with this
I hope you manage to find some peace
wishing you and all well
ps accidentally liked a reply; I genuinely don’t think there is judgement here - I think everyone all together has so much experience of situations and shares different perspectives
I suspect your father has either mental health issues or dementia going on. I don't know the full details about what actually happened but family dysfunction runs deep. It sounds like you did the best you could, but it's nothing you can do with a person who chooses to rot in their own filth. This is a job for APS.
When it is that much animosity, it is best to move on from it.
I believe you. You can't recover in a place that made you sick. My only brother passed away last year. I have two older siblings in their eighties that I'm not close to either. The other brother hated my guts and truth be told, there is no love lost there on my part either. My older sister spewed a bunch of lies on me when I was taking care of the household when my mother became ill and died leaving behind a disabled adult child. I was living in the family home. Of course, I was accused of being lazy and such. All lies of course. After I finished the process of my sister being placed, I moved out. I attended the hearing and made sure that everything went as planned. Then I didn't see any family until seven years later.
My suggestion is don't let family define you with their lies and false narratives.
Now...If no one is POA there is a very good possibility that this is going to end up in Court as your dad will need a Guardian.
Not an easy thing and it can be expensive. (In theory the Ward is the one that pays for the process)
If this does happen you will or should be notified by the Court when the case is heard. If you think that your sister is unable to be a Guardian you need to inform the court. this dies not mean you would have to be Guardian what it would mean is the Court would appoint one and dad would then be a Ward of the State.
thanks for explaining the guardianship
I am absolutely not spending any money on any of this so thank you for the info I appreciate it
I have dealt with people that accuse me of every vile thing they ever did or thought about doing. False accusations trying to make themselves look better, feel better, who knows what motivation people operate under when spewing their toxic venom. Not my problem, I know the truth and so do you.
I would encourage you to wash your hands of your sister and step waaaay back with your dad. You have been and always will be the family of origin scapegoat. They are not worth the heartache you suffer at their hands.
If you really want to help, sign up to volunteer, there are people that would welcome and appreciate you for helping them.
Time to, unfortunately, shake the dust of these people from your shoes.
suggestions on a good way to volunteer?
Be kind and gentle with yourself. Surround yourself with nice friends.
I also have a mentally ill sister. It is tough dealing with the rages. I had step way back.
The only other thing you can do is call APS .
The relationship with these people is over . Obviously there is alot of bad history and dysfunction .
his car is here they say he can't drive and the geriatrician thinks he can make his own decisions
yep giving them my sister's number
I am going on a trip friday and i will be damned if this crap brings me down
ya I know I am wishy washy but that's me don't judge it isn't easy letting go of someone you thought cared about you and loved you and then to realized he didn't
my mother didn't either and my sister is just out of her mind
I don't believe my parents didn't love me, there love was always on conditions, that's not a love that is healthy for a child or an adult child, it left me feeling like I'm not worthy to be loved, when your own parents don't love you, why should anyone. So I'm saying I understand. And to be honest, talking to you these days, if I came to you, you would tell me , I am worthy to be loved, and so are you!!! Be your own best friend.
As for wish washy, oh you havent seen anything, unless you read my post a few years ago, I was wishy washy times ten. Your just not in a good place, need some help, to find the right path.
is there a way to block someone here because all of you are amazing
My son had a teacher in middle grade, everyone disliked this teacher, I mean, she got more complaints from parents than any teacher I ever heard. The funny thing was my son flourished in her class. She was just the type and what he needed. I'm saying this to explain, some people my flourish, with a person that gives hard truths, some may not , so just scroll past anything you don't like or are not ready to hear.