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Hopefully you have hospice on board to guide you and to keep your LO comfortable? In the case of both of my parents, they didn't eat or drink for a week to 12 days before passing, there was almost no urine output, blueish cast to hands and feet, deep sleeping, and Cheyne-Stokes breathing pattern (death rattle) during the last 1-2 days before death.

My condolences on your impending loss.
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Is your LO on hospice care? This would be helpful to know.

"If your LO has truly stopped taking food and water for four days and is approaching the end of life, there are some common signs that often appear in the final days or hours. However, the timing can vary greatly from one elder to another. Common signs in the last days may include:

Sleeping most or all of the time and becoming difficult to awaken.
Little or no interest in food or fluids.
Increasing weakness and inability to get out of bed or change position independently.
Less communication, fewer responses, or periods of unresponsiveness.
Changes in breathing patterns, including pauses between breaths, irregular breathing, or cycles of rapid and slow breathing.
Coolness, mottling (bluish-purple blotching), or discoloration of the hands, feet, knees, or lower legs.
Decreased urine output or very dark urine.
Changes in consciousness, including confusion, restlessness, or speaking to people who are not present.
Relaxation of facial muscles and a more peaceful appearance as death nears.
In the final hours, breathing changes are often the most noticeable sign. There may be long pauses between breaths, shallow breathing, or a rattling sound caused by secretions in the throat (sometimes called the "death rattle").

Four days without food and water is significant, but some elders live longer than expected, especially if they were relatively well hydrated beforehand. Others decline much more quickly."

(Info aggregated by ChatGPT5.3)

My 105-yr old Aunt had a massive stroke then it took 2 days for in-home hospice to be set up, then after she returned home from the hospital it took her 4 days. She was given Ativan and Morphine starting in the hospital and continued at home until she passed.
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Everyone's dying experience is different, but when someone doesn't want food or water(and it's just not being withheld for some reason)that typically lets you know that the body is shutting down and preparing to leave this world for the next.
Like already said I hope you have hospice on board by now as they can answer any questions you have going forward.
My late husband went for 41 days without food or drink(although he got a little fluid through his pain pump)and hospice told me that he had broke their record for lasting that long without both. Hopefully your loved one won't be breaking any records.
So at this point since hearing is the last sense to go, make sure that you're not leaving anything left unsaid with your loved one.
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For my Mom, it was a week after Hospice came on board but she already was showing signs of transition. First, she closed her eyes about 2 weeks before her passing. Still was responsive but then would not get out of bed. Then the swallowing problems. So I had the facility call in Hospice. She passed 20 min after my last visit.
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My dad's breathing slowed down to about four breaths a minute. This lasted for days. He did not have a rally before death like some people do. He passed away after less than two weeks of no food or water.
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