I have been trying to take care of this woman and I have been living with her, she's 74 years old and there's nothing physical wrong with her. Everyday she pees on herself and will not change her clothes, I have seen her wearing the same clothes for months. What is worse is that I have been living with her since 2019 and not one single time has she ever or will she get into the shower. She will pee in a trashcan beside her bed and then wash the trashcan out in the shower. It doesn't matter to her because she doesn't use the shower but I have to, this can't be safe or sanitary! Can someone please help me out with some suggestions on what I can do?
You deserve better living conditions(in case you didn't already know that)even if it's in a homeless shelter, so please start packing your bags now and call Adult Protective Services(APS)on your way out the door to report a vulnerable adult living by themselves with either dementia or some kind of mental disorder, and they will come out and if need be take over her care.
There's nothing anyone here can do for you and I think you already know the answer to your problem.
Move out. Then call APS and report her as a vulnerable adult living alone because clearly that is what she is. Let them handle it.