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Michele...it really doesn't matter what you wanted at this point as your sister who has the POA has the final say as to what is best for your mom. Now if you want to go to court and file for guardianship over your mom to try and fight this you can. But be prepared to spend many thousands of dollars to do so. Br grateful that your mom is receiving the 24/7 care she now requires and that you can just go visit her as her loving daughter and not her burned out and overwhelmed caregiver.
Michele, be grateful that your mother is in a safe place where she can receive appropriate care 24/7; that you are therefore able to live your life freely and visit your mother as often as you want but return home to your own life; and that you won’t be writing to this forum as an overwhelmed and frustrated caregiver whose life has been taken over.
Few elders look forward to transitioning into care facilities but they are not prisoners or captives: they are there because their PoA decided it is the most appropriate care arrangement for them. Either caring for them in the home became overwhelming or they weren't safe in their home.
Please give us more information for context:
How old is your Mom? How old are you? Is your sister your Mom's PoA? If not, is anyone? Does your Mom have dementia or some other debilitating illness, like Parkinsons? What was the care arrangement before your Mom before went into facility care?
OP - You seem very angry, posting in all caps. These are emotional issues. It’s important to take a breath. When we are super angry it is hard to think straight AND it isn’t going to help you communicate effectively with your sister, who your mom put in charge of these decisions.
If you are not able to accept that your sister has the BURDEN of POA and show some respect and gratitude, you will end up shut down and shut out of getting information about your mom or becoming a partner in decision-making. If you were so eager to have her in your home, you should be eager to continue to help your mom and your sister where she is now.
No one with POA wants to hear someone carping on and second guessing difficult decisions. Being POA is not easy and neither is putting your mom in care. So start with an attitude adjustment or you might lose access to your mom completely.
A lot of people come on this forum with the same question. Your Mom assigned your Sister to be her POA. She must have trusted her to make the correct decisions for her. She must have met the criteria to be placed in a Care Home.
What health problems does Mom have? How old is she? Did you tell your sister you would take Mom in? Which I would not do without POA. Are you from the States?
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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Now if you want to go to court and file for guardianship over your mom to try and fight this you can. But be prepared to spend many thousands of dollars to do so.
Br grateful that your mom is receiving the 24/7 care she now requires and that you can just go visit her as her loving daughter and not her burned out and overwhelmed caregiver.
Please give us more information for context:
How old is your Mom?
How old are you?
Is your sister your Mom's PoA? If not, is anyone?
Does your Mom have dementia or some other debilitating illness, like Parkinsons?
What was the care arrangement before your Mom before went into facility care?
If you are not able to accept that your sister has the BURDEN of POA and show some respect and gratitude, you will end up shut down and shut out of getting information about your mom or becoming a partner in decision-making. If you were so eager to have her in your home, you should be eager to continue to help your mom and your sister where she is now.
No one with POA wants to hear someone carping on and second guessing difficult decisions. Being POA is not easy and neither is putting your mom in care. So start with an attitude adjustment or you might lose access to your mom completely.
What health problems does Mom have? How old is she? Did you tell your sister you would take Mom in? Which I would not do without POA. Are you from the States?