My parents have been married 65 years. Dad takes care of Mom in their home. Mom is recently in a wheelchair full time and has dementia that seems to come and go. Dad is still completely lucid and capable of taking care of Mom except for lifting her. Now that she is in a wheelchair, what are the options for in-home help? He does not need full-time help, only occasional help with the physical issues. Where does he turn to find this?
Call their County Officebof Aging. Ask them if they can evaluate the house for things needed to help Dad.
Can you tell us more about why mom is requiring such intensive care right now? Her diagnosis and her prognosis. Your parents are my childrens' ages. My daughter is 63, SIL is 70. They are newly retired and enjoying life, but when illness comes things change with great rapidity.
Your father is requiring help. At this time that is going more than likely to come from care.com, and from attending meets at senior centers to see the availability of programs to provide respite and assistance, dependent on the needs of Mom. Also family participation if that's possible.
Your Dad should discuss with mom's doctor the progression expected here, and options for mom's help and care. Social Workers can be provided to give some guidance.
Wishing all the best of luck.