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I live in a Senior Independent Living Community. We have 2 neighbors that have worn the same outfit for a month at least. Should we speak to them about it? Speak to their families?

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It would be kind of you to express your concerns to their families in a respectful way
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Reply to Daughterof1930
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How do you know they don't wash it every night and put it back on in the morning? People used to do this! My great-grandmother told me that her mother made sure that the 8 kids in the family washed their own underwear every night. I'm assuming this was because they only had one set of underwear.

However, if your neighbors have signs of losing cognition, look for other things that they do that cause concern. Hoarding, food left out to spoil, fender benders when driving, tasks left unfinished, being unkempt, etc. At that point, inform their families. If neighbors are on a downhill cognitive spiral, speaking to them will do absolutely nothing because they won't realize that they have a problem.
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Can you get inside their home on some premise? You may see other signs of struggle/decline inside. If this is the case I would alert their family. If you can't alert their family I would alert someone in admin at the community to see if they have a policy.

Other than that, you can report them to APS who will come and check on them.
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If you are truly concerned I would mention it to their family. Although if their family hasn't noticed it already then it must mean that they're not coming around very often and perhaps don't care.
This could be a sign of mental decline/dementia so mentioning it to your neighbors I don't think would do any good, but if they have a good relationship with their family it certainly can't hurt to voice your concerns.
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Reply to funkygrandma59
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Do the clothes look unclean? Do they smell, either the clothes or the couple or both? Do you know any of the family members? I think it's worth mentioning to the family if you do know them. Privately, with concern, so as not to embarrass them.

What kind of laundry facilities do you have? Communal, or in your units? Are the washer and dryer easy to get to, or are they up or down stairs that the couple may not be able to negotiate anymore? Or maybe their washer is broken and they don't have money to fix it.

Whatever the reason, it's nice of you to be concerned. I hope you'll find a satisfactory answer.
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