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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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Are they truly angry with you for something you didn’t include in your post? How did it come to be that you are taking care of your father alone? Did you volunteer or were you volunteered? Only we are responsible for ourselves and how we feel about things. We can’t count on other people, even family members, to make us feel good or validated. We don’t have to be doormats to these people or constantly try to make them like us. We have to feel good about ourselves and not really care all that much how others feel about us. That’s a hard concept to accept, especially when the people treating us like crap are blood relatives. My husband is estranged from his sisters and brother for just that reason. I’m alone here caring for him and no one from his family ever calls, texts or emails to ask about him. The last time we were together at a party, no one even asked about him.
If you are your father’s caregiver, hopefully you have the legal authority of a Power of Attorney in case you ever need it. If not and he is competent, get one now. See an Elder Law Attorney. If things are getting too much to handle, and you think your sisters should be involved, start thinking about placement for Dad, unless of course one of the others wants to take him. If it comes to that, your sisters will need to know.
Do the best best you can for as long as you can. File for Medicaid if you need to and get help. Don’t count on others for help. Like me, you’ll be very disappointed.
Some people are strange. When people don't call me, I figure they are really busy, too sick or just don't want to talk with me.
What was the last thing that you discussed with them for them to be mad at you? Do they agree with you caring for your dad in the home? I know that can generate some resentment. When seniors have serious need of care and one person tries to do it in the home, I think that other family members may be bothered, if they don't agree on the plan. I'm just speculating. If you are clueless about their behavior, I might send a little note or card that says, we miss you, call when you can and see what happens.
Because they are afraid of what you will say. By asking you how things are going, that puts them in a position where you may ask for help. They don't want to help so no calls.
Write them nice little notes. Telling them you and Dad have missed them. It would be so nice to have them visit. Put a guilt trip on them. If they visit, that would be the time to mention it would be nice if they could sit with Dad every so often so you could have sometime to yourself to shop, go to a movie, what ever.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
If you are your father’s caregiver, hopefully you have the legal authority of a Power of Attorney in case you ever need it. If not and he is competent, get one now. See an Elder Law Attorney. If things are getting too much to handle, and you think your sisters should be involved, start thinking about placement for Dad, unless of course one of the others wants to take him. If it comes to that, your sisters will need to know.
Do the best best you can for as long as you can. File for Medicaid if you need to and get help. Don’t count on others for help. Like me, you’ll be very disappointed.
What was the last thing that you discussed with them for them to be mad at you? Do they agree with you caring for your dad in the home? I know that can generate some resentment. When seniors have serious need of care and one person tries to do it in the home, I think that other family members may be bothered, if they don't agree on the plan. I'm just speculating. If you are clueless about their behavior, I might send a little note or card that says, we miss you, call when you can and see what happens.
Write them nice little notes. Telling them you and Dad have missed them. It would be so nice to have them visit. Put a guilt trip on them. If they visit, that would be the time to mention it would be nice if they could sit with Dad every so often so you could have sometime to yourself to shop, go to a movie, what ever.