Where do I start? She can function physically in her apartment with her limited mobility. She can have lucid conversations, take care of her health visits etc. Biggest problem right now is her auditory hallucinations where everyone is plotting against her (constantly). I am in South Florida with my family so a little difficult to manage her issues from here. We do not have room for her here and she cannot tolerate my wife and refuses to have any collaboration with her after many years. We cannot afford assisted living, her SS is slightly above the threshold for Medicaid assistance.
In the meantime, it's a good idea to come to Brooklyn and get mom to the doctor for meds to calm down her hallucinations and anxiety. You can meet with the CELA and get things rolling too. She should not be living alone or without help 24/7.
Best of luck to you.
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Your mom needs much more help than she's getting at the moment. And the Miller Trust is not an option for New York residents. Wishing you all the best.
Does she have one? If so, this person needs to read the PoA document and find out what triggers the authority (unless it is durable).
Once the PoA is active, there are strategies to getting her relocated. Her having paranoia is a common dementia behavior, usually in the moderate stage.
If the paranoia is a newish behavior, she may have a UTI causing neurological problems and should be tested and could then be treated.
How old is your Mother? Do NOT move her in with you no matter what. If you end up being her legal representative, move her close to where you live no matter what she wants. Caregiving has to happen on the caregiver's terms or else burnout is imminent.
And I might add your mother should no longer be living alone. She is a danger to herself and others. This is an emergency. You or a trusted person should be there with her until you get this resolved.
I wish you good luck.
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What a weird thing to say to a senior citizen. You think you are talking to a teen or 20 something? Her mom is almost 90, so she is probably close to 65. Guilt trips are not needed for people that qualify for senior discount coffee.
If she can not leave her apartment without assistance how would she evacuate in an emergency? How or would she call 911 in an emergency?
Her caregivers need to be full time 24/7
Talk to an Elder Care Attorney that can help get her qualified for Medicaid.
You spend down her assets.
You can search to see if there are Group Homs that she may qualify for/afford.
Is it possible that a facility in Florida might be less expensive than a facility in New York. (My bet is yes)
Or an apartment in Florida with caregivers that can be with her. Good possibility that an apartment and caregiver might also be less expensive in Florida than in New York.
Are you POA for mom? If so then moving her is within your scope of doing what you have to do to keep her safe.
If you are not POA and she has no one appointed with dementia you may have to file for Guardianship OR report her as being unsafe and if you can not assume or do not want to assume the role of POA a Court Appointed Guardian will step in. If that happens there is a very good possibility that all decisions will be out of your hands.