Hello. I have quite a bit of anxiety over this situation should it ever arise: I am my 95 year old Mother's only caregiver. I am able to give her care 24/7 and I am not looking for any daily help or any time off. I like to prepare for emergencies well before they occur but I am unable to get an answer or a solution to my potential problem. The "what if" scenario which worries me is if I have a medical emergency for myself. What if I need to be hospitalized immediately and am taken to the hospital. What would become of my Mother? I have nobody to call for helping to care for her, and I mean absolutely nobody. I don't even have someone that could care for her very temporarily while they were finding her a place to go until my return.I certainly cannot be the only one in this situation. I have talked to Social Workers and different respite providers but am unable to get a solution to this possible, very real emergency situation that could arise. I would be very grateful for any suggestions. Thank you and take care.
If you are unable to communicate they would have a judge order temporary Guardianship by a Court Appointed Guardian. None of this would be the "best case" for mom it would be "emergency case"
You would probably be best if you could get a caregiver that would come and give you a break a few days a week. that way you have mom with a company that could be contacted for care that could be done at home rather than a facility.
You should talk to your attorney to arrange a "Special Needs Trust" that would care for mom if you are unable to. The Trust would kick in and potentially avoid some delays in care.
I hope you find a solution.
I had them for my husband, who has dementia. They helped us when I had to leave home to go to the doctor and when I was looking for a good facility for him. They always sent someone who was compatible with DH's interests and could do things with him and for him.
When my husband went into facility care, I created my own account with them. They sent a representative to the house, interviewed me, I signed paperwork, and now if I get sick or am injured, I can call and get a sitter, CNA, someone to drive me, stay with me in the hospital and so on.
I'd suggest that you get such help now and use their caregivers for a few hours at a time here and there so mom can get used to them. Then when you do need emergency care for her because you are in the hospital, getting cataract surgery, or taking a vacation, whatever, it will all be set up and just a phone call away for both you and mom.
I am a Trustee for a Special Needs Trust. It was set up because my nephew received money from his Moms insurance policy. For him to get services, he is disabled, the Trust was set up. When he passes, the money left will go to Medicaid. These Trusts are limited in how they can be used.