I apologize if the question sounds confusing but I'm fearful. I'm finally going to be able to check something off my bucket list. I'm taking a holiday trip next month. For those of you who know my history, you know that in the past, every time I had a trip planned, my father would come up with something to hinder me from going such as needing to go to the doctor or saying he thinks he needs the hospital. He is in a facility now and I'm terrified that something will happen. I have not told him that I'm going out of town and do not plan to until right before I leave. He has never wanted me to enjoy myself. He only wants me to serve him even now that he is no longer at home. This trip is important to me and I don't plan on letting anything interfere with it but my fear is clouding my excitement.
You can let the facility know that you will not be visiting for a while. that you will be out of town. tell them to not inform your father that you are out of town.. If your dad has access to a phone do not take any calls from that number, let them go to voicemail.
They have your number, they can contact you in an EMERGENCY but designate another person as a successor POA in case a decision has to be made and you can not be reached.
(A successor POA is a good idea anyway so if something does happen it will not have to go through the Guardianship process)
Please do not let your fear ruin your trip. I hope you are going someplace fun and exciting!